Monday Pick Me Up – I Will Be Your Left Side

One final Christmas story…

Shared by Carla

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Upcoming holidays often include plans to return home.  Since I live close to my parent’s home I have this
option frequently.  Sometimes when I return home I regressed to my youngest child birth order. With the regression brings a return to the typical youngest child behavior of eavesdropping.

I learn a lot from eavesdropping.  I hope you do too. Occasionally, conversations are mundane and routine. But, then there is the mother lode of juicy pieces of information, not yet ready for full broadcast. These conversations are more fun than a midnight sale at Nordstrom.  Recently I overheard a conversation between my dad and his caregiver, Sonny.

My dad is on year three of his stroke rehabilitation.  His series of strokes left his left-side in a sleepy, limited-functioning state.  This requires him to submit to help with moving, transitioning, dressing, bathing, anything that you or I would do with our left side, he must rely on a caregiver to help him do.

One day was particularly difficult.  Arms and legs were not acting in concert but as free agents. It was during this day, that I overheard Sonny, tell Dad something indeed worth eavesdropping to hear.  Sonny said, “Don’t worry, Bill, I will be your left side today.”

I do not know what else followed in their conversation.  I was lost in thoughts of gratitude for Sonny and his expression of care.  “Don’t worry; I will be your left side today.”  Sonny didn’t say, “Help me out, you can do more.” He knew Dad was doing all he could do.  Sonny didn’t give up in frustration.  He persevered.

He did not say, “Lean on me and I will do it all.”  He preserved Dad’s dignity and worth. Sonny saw what needed to be done and did it, assuring Dad that he was there as support.

Have you offered anyone your left side? I mean, really offered with the intent to follow-through? This is tough for me because I am the spokesperson for the club with the title, “If I Can Do Anything, Just Let Me Know.” I reached this position after years of membership in the “Happy to Help in Anyway I Can” association.  To turn intention into action is the balance I seek. Sonny turned intention into action.  He was acutely aware of another’s needs.  He served that day and continues today to serve as a left-side.

What a goal and a gift!

This holiday season, I wish for you to find ways to be another’s “left-side,” for a minute, an hour, or a lifetime.  And, I wish that you will experience the best of the season from all sides! 

Helen Teague ~ Helen’s father, Dr. William J. Teague lives in Abilene, Texas.
Helen is a teacher and consultant with OOPS: Our Overnight Planning System, an educational staff development firm for those interested in the life-long learning potential of students. Visit OOPS at: http://4oops.com or contact Helen by email at: helen@4oops.com

Monday Pick Me Up – SECRET SANTA

A  beautiful Christmas story

Shared by Carla

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The man had just filled his car with gas; he was cold, wet, and ready to head for home. He opened his car door and bent down to climb inside.  “Sir, sir.”  He glanced in the direction of the frail voice to find a well-dressed, elderly lady attempting to get his attention. He closed the car door and walked towards her. “Can I help you, ma’am?”

The older woman explained that the gas pump was not working properly, and asked if he knew what she was doing wrong.  “These are new pumps and very touchy-even for me.  I’ve found the easiest thing to do is forget locking them while I fill; they keep shutting off for some reason.”

“Oh my! I can’t keep pressure on that handle until my tank is full.  My hands don’t have much strength in them anymore.”  She cast her blue eyes to the ground in frustration.

“I’d be honored to fill your tank for you!”  The man’s Texas accent was gentle and he gave her a little wink.   “By the way, I love your British accent.”  “Yes, a British accent in Texas people always notice!” She smiled.  “We just came to the States a few years ago.  That’s my husband in the car.” She paused for a moment, “He has Alzheimer’s now.”

“I’m so very sorry.for both of you.”  After a slight lull the gentleman continued.  “Why don’t you get back in the car while I do this; the snow is picking up and you’re going to get wet.”

She was a lovely woman with snowy-white hair; her attire was prim and proper as one would expect from a Brit.  “I’d rather visit if you don’t mind. Our son is out of town for Christmas; he’s with his wife’s family this year and I’m feeling a bit blue.”  A knot formed in the Texan’s throat and he hoped to change the subject.

“Just what are the two of you doing out in this weather? I hope your drive home is a short one.  You know these Texas drivers aren’t the best when it comes to snow and sleet,” he teased.

“We’re on our way home from a Christmas party.  The medical center has one each year for the Alzheimer patients.  They are rather like children’s parties and they have Santa visit.  Oftentimes patients will have moments they recall things from their past.  Some sing along to Christmas carols when they haven’t carried on an actual conversation in quite a long while.” “Did anyone recognize Santa today?”

“Oh, yes, my husband recognized Santa and tried to steal his hat!  He even said, ‘Ho, ho, ho-Merry Christmas.’  His recollection was rather brief but it was the highlight of my day.” She grinned.

The gas pump clicked off, the woman swiped her credit card to make payment, and turned to thank the man who had been willing to help her.  The two were saying their farewells when the squeal of brakes, a thud, and breaking glass at the intersection caught their attention. “Oh, my!” The lady whimpered with a distressed expression. “It’s getting so slick. I’ve got to hurry and get home.” “Ma’am, I’d be honored to follow you in case you have problems.”

She hesitated momentarily and then appeared relieved, “Oh, I’d be so grateful. I can’t thank you enough. And by the way, my name is Margaret.”  She reached out to shake hands with her new friend. “Margaret, I’m pleased to make your acquaintance.  My name is Ray.”  He patted her hand gently before they released their grasp. “You just drive slowly; I’ll be right behind you.”

When Margaret pulled into her garage Ray stopped curbside. “I just want to be sure you get inside safely,” he shouted. Margaret waved and asked him to wait for a moment then nodded and spoke to her neighbor hanging Christmas lights.

She guided John into the house, quickly reappeared in the garage, and motioned for Ray to pull into the driveway. She thanked Ray again and soon mentioned this being the first Christmas she and her husband had ever spent alone.  Ray, always a soft touch for older folks, was happy to listen.

She spoke fondly of traditions her family adhered to when she was a child in England and revealed an interesting glimpse into her past plus a taste of her cherished memories from across the pond.  “You know mistletoe is very traditional in England.  My first “real” kiss was under the mistletoe when I was a teenager.  Oh, what memories I have.”   For a split second, Margaret looked like a young girl again.  Several minutes passed before Margaret began to shiver and they were forced to say farewell.

Christmas morn found Margaret peeking out her front door just as the sun crested the horizon. She stepped outside, instantly clasped her hands like a small child, and peered up and down the street.

With not a soul in sight she began to examine the items discovered on her porch each one dredged up memories of years gone by in Merry Old England.  Just above her head hung an arrangement of mistletoe adorned with elegant lace; she touched it gently. Bedecked with Victorian ornaments, a small, lighted Christmas tree sat in the corner-beneath it a homemade mincemeat pie wrapped securely and tied with golden ribbon.

The card attached said only, “From: Santa.”  Hanging from the doorknob a brilliant red Santa Claus hat with tag, “To: John.” Margaret called to John; he slowly made his way and stepped outside.  Nothing on the porch sparked his interest until Margaret placed the Santa hat in his hands.  After staring at it and stroking the velvety softness, he plopped it onto his head.  It sat askew but John’s face beamed as his voice rang out across the neighborhood, “Ho, ho, ho! Ho, ho, ho!”

Parked several houses away, a Secret Texas Santa sniffed and wiped at a lone tear. a happy tear.  “Merry Christmas and God Bless.” He smiled and turned towards home.

©2007 Kathleene S. Baker

Kathleene and husband, Jerry, reside in Plano, Texas. T hey share their home with two terribly spoiled schnauzers.

A freelancer, she has contributed to newspapers, anthologies, magazines, online ezines, and writes a weekly column entitled “Heart of Texas.”  She is Editor for Starfish, a daily inspiration ezine.

Visit Kathy’s website at: www.txyellowrose.com or feel free to email her at: Lnstrlady@aol.com

Monday Pick Me Up – Be Yourself

A bit of a different post this week…

This describes a little of who I am; A sucker for a puppy dog!

This is an amazing story all by itself.

Enjoy…

As always please leave any comments and questions right here on the blog.

tks

~ Carla

Monday Pick Me Up – I Wish You Enough

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I never really thought that I’d spend as much time in airports as I do. I don’t know why. I always wanted to be famous and that would mean lots of travel. But I’m not famous, yet I do see more than my share of airports.

I love them and I hate them. I love them because of the people I get to watch. But they are also the same reason why I hate airports. It all comes down to “hello” and “goodbye.” I must have mentioned this a few times while writing my stories. I have great difficulties with saying goodbye. Continue reading “Monday Pick Me Up – I Wish You Enough”

Monday Pick Me Up – If You Change One Thing, You Change Everything

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Looking back on your life, what would you change if you could?

In the classic 1946 film It’s a Wonderful Life, the main character, a small-town bank officer played by Jimmy Stewart, is about to commit suicide when an angel shows him how different the lives of people in Bedford Falls would be if he hadn’t been born.

The movie is a favorite because it affirms how each of us touches the lives and shapes the future in unexpected and often marvelous ways. More modern films like Back to the Future, Sliding Door, and Frequency are built on a similar premise:

If you change the past, you change the future – often in dramatic and unpredictable ways.

If you change one thing, you change everything. Given the potential impact of every decision you make, it’s wise to think ahead. Although few things turn out exactly as we plan, the better we understand how our choices start a chain reaction of events, the more likely we are to get what we want.

The enormous complexity of cause and effect leads to another conclusion: It’s futile to look back at our lives with “what if” scenarios. What’s done is done.

Although changing our past would change our present, it would do so in ways that are so unpredictable that we could never know whether it would be for better or worse. Accept and celebrate the fact that what you are today is a direct result of everything that’s happened to you.

It’s pointless to wish things were different. Remember, if you change one thing, you change everything.

Michael Josephson
www.charactercounts.org

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